Every day I see tweets, blog posts, newspaper articles or gossip column vitriol directed at cosmetic surgery and more to the point, the women who opt for it. I'm not saying men don't opt for it or don't have a hard time about it either but the majority of the hatred is definitely directed at women, usually with a nice little backhanded compliment about how they looked so much better before or how they, the journalist or reader, feel sorry for that person for having to resort to cosmetic surgery.
Don't feel sorry for them. Their insecurities about their bodies are nothing for you to feel sorry about. We all have insecurities and things that we would change if we could but we decide not to. We decide as in the fact that it is a choice. I hate my nose. I hate the way my chin sticks out. I hate my teeth. I hate my breasts. It's not something eating healthily will solve. I can mask the problems with make-up and a strategically planned smile but without cosmetic enhancement I will never have the features I am happy with. I accept this because I don't have the money to go under the knife but if I had a spare £20,000 laying around would I get these things 'fixed'? In a heartbeat.
I believe in being the best version of us but if that version is causing us issues as people and we can't overcome those issues then surgery is an option. I believe that if you think having a bigger chest will give you more confidence then surgery is an option. Is it the best option? Will those insecurities just move to another area of their body they want to fix? I am not to say. For some that I know a bigger chest or a nose job has actually solved their confidence issues. For one, it hasn't. These are individual situations for individual people and they cannot be combined under the umbrella term of 'embracing the natural you'. There is nothing natural about changing our face shapes to the eye with cleverly applied make up or wearing padded bras to fill us out a bit more. For some there is a line, for some there isn't. Judgment shouldn't be applied.
So whether it's a breast augmentation, rhinoplasty, veneers or something not quite as invasive such as laser hair removal, there are a plethora of companies selling what you want to buy. Do your research, attend as many free consultations as you can, never go with someone because of their low price and only go with a doctor you feel comfortable and confident with. Talk it over with friends and family, talk it over with a professional, embrace yourself as much as possible but if that fails and you still want surgery there is no shame in it.
There are bad surgeons and good surgeons, fantastic results and dire results - if you're happy, educated and confident in your decision that should be all there is to it. I'm sorry for the mini-rant, I'm a bit het up today and judgement reigns supreme on social media platforms about friends of mine that truly don't deserve it.